Early on in my life, I got caught up in the downward spiral of addiction. This is my story.
Even before I hit the legal drinking age of 21, I was a black-out drinker for a year and a half. One day, I was hit by a brutal realization that if I did not quit drinking before the age of 21 (where I could start legally buying my own alcohol), I was going to die. It was, to say the least, a rude awakening.
That experience, almost 19 years ago now, forced me into a journey of self-discovery because my growth had really been stunted up to that point. I basically had to relearn how to live and that’s when the real work began of taking a hard and honest look at my own self-talk (the stories I was telling myself and ultimately believing).
I learned I needed to be open and honest and even vulnerable; something that did not come easily especially as a guy. Let’s face it, guys typically grow up with the idea that men can’t show emotions; so we hide, bury and never share what we’re really feeling. Now mind you, I never explicitly heard these ideas from my parents! I came to understand they actually came from our society and culture of how a man “should” act without any awareness on my part. For the longest time, I thought I had to be a certain “way” and I had to do things a certain “way.”
It was these limiting feelings which really led me astray and straight into drinking. Beliefs about how I “should” be, how I “needed” to be and the assumption I had to handle all this stuff by myself. When in reality, I couldn’t. (Who can really?) So I was looking for an outlet, a way to deal with all this stuff and that led me to drinking.
And as addiction usually does, drinking exacerbated my loss of self. I had lost touch with myself and all sense of myself. I actually began to compromise my own core values of integrity, honesty and forthrightness; not only with others, but first and foremost with myself. I found myself on the proverbial “slippery slope” and it just got worse.
Through my self-discovery journey, along with people who had my best interests at heart in a judgment-free zone, I began to learn how to be open, honest and vulnerable. In other words, how to be the “real” me; not a version society wanted me to be. Together with my trusted advisors, we acknowledged the reality of my life situation and then designed a plan to move forward and improve my life and the way I lived.
Today, I am a successful entrepreneur following my passion of helping people as a coach. I’m also happily married with THE most adorable daughters while chasing all my dreams.
Just like when I first embarked on my original self-discovery journey all those years ago, I had people who helped me get sober, coached and supported me. After a certain point, I began to coach others so I could help them turn their lives around just as I had done with my own life. It became important to me to help those around me.
Now I’m a full-time, professional coach, helping and inspiring people like myself, entrepreneurs. People driven with an entrepreneurial spirit, who have taken the deliberate and courageous step of becoming self-employed in an all-out effort to launch and build something incredible and meaningful!
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